When Holding on Holds You Back

Dear Balanced Life Family,

Are you holding a grudge? Did someone make you so mad that you felt like you’d never forgive them? Have you been deceived, let down, betrayed? Well, you’ve got to let it go because it’s holding you back.

Holding a grudge keeps you in bondage. It gives the person who did you wrong control over your emotions. Are they worth it? Holding a grudge steals your peace and your joy. It can ruin days, deprive you of sleep, interfere with plans, and affect your health.

The scripture says, “Be angry, and sin not; let not the sun go down upon your wrath:” Ephesians 4:26. That means don’t go to bed mad! And here’s the crazy thing about it. All the time you’re going through these changes and losing sleep, the one who made you mad probably isn’t even thinking about you. They’ve moved on with their life. They sleep well at night. (Some people have no conscience.)

Oftentimes, you don’t want to forgive them because you say, “Nope! I’m not about to let them get off that easily.” Well, you’ve got to realize that you aren’t forgiving them for their sake, you’re doing it for your sake. It’s to free yourself from the bondage of hate, anger, distrust, stress, and whatever side effects came along with that unfortunate experience.

You may say, “I just can’t forgive and forget because they’ve done it so many times before, and you don’t know what happened and how badly it hurt me. The scripture says, “Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.”  Matthew 18:21 & 22. 

What I’m saying to you is you MUST forgive, or you’ll be stuck in the misery that you experience each time that person comes to your mind. You’ve unknowingly given them some control over your life. This is where the power of God comes in. You’ve got to pray earnestly to God and ask for the spirit of forgiveness. It’s a power that only He can give. Then sincerely, deep within your heart, forgive that person and let it go. Now, I’m not saying that you have to be friends with them, but forgive them and move on with your life. Experience God’s joy, peace, and happiness every day. LET THE GRUDGE GO! It’s holding you back.

 

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